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something surprising, something the other person will not be

expecting. Many times you have probably witnessed an

explosion of laughter right after someone aptly replied with a

good retort. Such volleys of laughter mostly appear after

something totally unexpected.

5. Relate to the most popular current topic or trend. All

you need in order to do this is the most basic knowledge about

events occurring in the world and in our country. There is no

shortage of scandals and strange or funny events in our

homeland, so you can always tell a retort connected with a
situation in which one of the politicians or celebrities offended

someone after they felt dishonored, etc. There are many

options if you watch the news at least sometimes (I wouldn’t

really recommend watching mainstream news too often!) or

you sometimes follow these things online, then it’s easy to
refer to what’s currently on most people’s minds as soon as the

opportunity arises.

6. Use reframing. It is one of the best NLP techniques and

comes down to seeing the same thing from a completely new

perspective. There are two types of reframing: content and

context reframing. In content reframing, if you want to find a
good answer, you need to ask yourself the question: “What

different, positive meaning could this particular situation

have?” In context reframing, you need to answer this question:

“In what other context would this situation would seem

positive?”

7. “This is my favorite story!” Sometimes you meet people

who talk too much—they start talking about what you did

wrong or how you should behave and you cannot see the end

of their criticism. At this point you can interject their