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really is, although we have a lot of proof that we can’t see,

hear, feel or sense even a tiny bit of what many animals can.

The other filters are acquired during our daily life. These are

experiences, which create your personality right from birth, in

addition to values, indoctrinated into your mind for many
years by your parents, friends, education system and the rest of

society.

There are your ambitions and expectations, and most

importantly, your beliefs about the world. They create the

way in which you see the world, your own life, opportunities
and relationships with other people. If you believe that the

world is a cruel and insidious place, you will behave like that

is the absolute and only truth. It will give you a lot of

unpleasant emotions and experiences. If your belief is that the

world is a wonderful and beautiful place full of helpful people,

your thoughts, emotions, self-talk, relationships and entire life
will be totally different.

Every Belief Is a Source of Specific Behaviors

Let’s assume for a moment that you believe every human is

a liar who only wants to take advantage of you. Having such a
belief, imagine how would you behave in a new company with

new co-workers around you or trying to negotiate a new

business deal?

Let’s now change a filter and say that you truly believe that

people love to make new friends and that everyone has
something special in themselves. How will your behavior look

then? How different will it be if you change only one of your

beliefs so dramatically?