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When Growth Is Diffi cult

EXERCISES

1. Choose one form of overtness or clarity that you would like to
make into a habit. Then consider how you can apply each of the
three key elements of a habit:

a. Write a short description of why practicing this specifi c behav-
ior will be benefi cial. What will be the positive outcome for
you?
b. Select a specifi c cue that will remind you to practice that
behavior—perhaps a note in your calendar, an alarm, or
some other physical reminder.
c. Set a time horizon of four to six weeks during which you
commit to practicing the new behavior every day. Your goal
is to move from an action-outcome habit to a stimulus-
response habit.

2. Consider a potentially diffi cult interaction you face over the
next several days, perhaps involving someone with whom you
have had confl icts in the past. Using Figure 6.2 as a guide, try
to identify your fi ve building blocks of reality and how each of
yours differs from the other person’s. Can you predict the most
likely area of confl ict?

3. When you have the diffi cult interaction, keep a watchful eye on
not only the content of your discussion, but also on the building
block that matters. Try to make sure that the actual discussion
is aligned with the covert source of confl ict at all times. Note: If
you have a trusting relationship with the other person, you may
even consider sharing Figure 6.2, explaining what you’re trying
to do, and seeking his or her help.

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