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What Does Confident Look Like?

If you choose to have it (because it is your choice), you

■ Are comfortable in your own skin.
■ Handle whatever hits you no matter how many pressures.
■ Have an ego that is “in check”; you haven’t an ounce of conceit.
■ Feel neither self-conscious nor superior.
■ Exude lots of emotional strength.
■ Fail to act embarrassed with what people think about you and
shrug off attempts at insults.
■ Freely admit imperfection and ignorance in many areas; you
listen for better ideas.
■ Credit luck with many of your achievements.
■ Look at your own strengths and weaknesses with utter
detachment; sometimes you volunteer your own limitations and
always admit your mistakes and missteps.
■ Have pride but don’t act too proud.
■ Feel relevant, never irrelevant.
■ Have a sureness of your powers to get a job done even with the
unknown, complex, or inexplicable.
■ Hold no delusion about yourself; you can look at yourself
objectively and laugh at yourself wholeheartedly.
■ Shut up before you berate, bad mouth, or insult.
■ Can say “No” without explanation and can take “No” without
affront.
■ Feel comfortable being uncomfortable.
■ Don’t need approval.
■ Are complimentary toward others instead of skeptical and
jealous.
■ Seek out the smartest person in the room instead of acting like
the smartest person in the room.
■ Think of yourself less often instead of thinking less of yourself.
■ Free up your mind with peace of mind even when relinquishing
control.