Page 51 - Getting to the Heart of High Performance

Ordinarily this mental processing occurs automatically.
We quietly, relentlessly, and, for the most part, uncon-
sciously do our sense-making of everyday life. Positive,

uplifting episodes help us feel better about ourselves
and help our deep strengths flourish. Negative experi-
ences cause the deep strengths to decay.

Here’s the problem: too much of the time people just

“do what comes naturally” in dealing with one another.
They let nature take its course, rather than consciously
and deliberately managing social exchanges in a positive
direction. As a result, most of their encounters con-

tribute nothing to the enhancement of deep strengths,
and far too many actually do damage.

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