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I take as my guide the hope of a saint
in crucial things, unity --
in important things, diversity --
in all things, generosity
-- Inaugural Address of President George Bus
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When Sir Winston Churchill was called to head up the war effort for Great Britain, he remarked that
all his life had prepared him for this hour. In a similar sense, the exercise of all of the other habits
prepares us for the habit of synergy.
When properly understood, synergy is the highest activity in all life -- the true test and
manifestation of all the other habits put together.
The highest forms of synergy focus the four unique human endowments, the motive of win-win,
and the skills of empathic communication on the toughest challenges we face in life. What results is
almost miraculous. We create new alternatives -- something that wasn't there before.
Synergy is the essence of Principle-Centered Leadership. It is the essence of principle-centered
parenting. It catalyzes, unifies, and unleashes the greatest powers within people. All the habits we
have covered prepare us to create the miracle of synergy.
What is synergy? Simply defined, it means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. It
means that the relationship which the parts have to each other is a part in and of itself. It is not only a
part, but the most catalytic, the most empowering, the most unifying, and the most exciting part.
The creative process is also the most terrifying part because you don't know exactly what's going to
happen or where it is going to lead. You don't know what new dangers and challenges you'll find. It
takes an enormous amount of internal security to begin with the spirit of adventure, the spirit of
discovery, the spirit of creativity. Without doubt, you have to leave the comfort zone of base camp
and confront an entirely new and unknown wilderness. You become a trailblazer, a pathfinder. You
open new possibilities, new territories, new continents, so that others can follow.
Synergy is everywhere in nature. If you plant two plants close together, the roots commingle and
improve the quality of the soil so that both plants will grow better than if they were separated. If you
put two pieces of wood together, they will hold much more than the total of the weight held by each
separately. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. One plus one equals three or more.
The challenge is to apply the principles of creative cooperation, which we learn from nature, in our
social interactions. Family life provides many opportunities to observe synergy and to practice it.
The very way that man and a woman bring a child into the world is synergistic. The essence of
synergy is to value differences -- to respect them, to build on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses.
We obviously value the physical differences between men and women, husbands and wives. But
what about the social, mental, and emotional differences? Could these differences not also be sources of
creating new exciting forms of life -- creating an environment that is truly fulfilling for each person, that
nurtures the self-esteem and self-worth to each, that creates opportunities for each to mature into
independence and then gradually into interdependence? Could synergy not create a new script for the
next generation -- one that is more geared to service and contribution, and is less protective, less
adversarial, less selfish; one that is more open, more giving, and is less defensive, protective, and
political; one that is more loving, more caring, and is less possessive and judgmental?

Synergistic Communication

When you communicate synergistically, you are simply opening your mind and heart and
expressions to new possibilities, new alternatives, new options. It may seem as if you are casting aside
Habit 2 (to Begin with the End in Mind); but, in fact, you're doing the opposite -- you're fulfilling it.