Page 146 - stephen covey The seven habits of highly effective people

THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE Brought to you by FlyHeart

The relationship of the parts is also the power in creating a synergistic culture inside a family or an
organization. The more genuine the involvement, the more sincere and sustained the participation in
analyzing and solving problems, the greater the release of everyone's creativity, and of their
commitment to what they create. This, I'm convinced, is the essence of the power in the Japanese
approach to business, which has changed the world marketplace.
Synergy works; it's a correct principle. It is the crowning achievement of all the previous habits.
It is effectiveness in an interdependent reality -- it is teamwork, team building, the development of
unity and creativity with other human beings.
Although you cannot control the paradigms of others in an interdependent interaction or the
synergistic process itself, a great deal of synergy is within your Circle of Influence.
Your own internal synergy is completely within the circle. You can respect both sides of your own
nature -- the analytical side and the creative side. You can value the difference between them and use
that difference to catalyze creativity.
You can be synergistic within yourself even in the midst of a very adversarial environment. You
don't have to take insults personally. You can sidestep negative energy; you can look for the good in
others and utilize that good, as different as it may be, to improve you point of view and to enlarge your
perspective.
You can exercise the courage in interdependent situations to be open, to express your ideas, your
feelings, and your experiences in a way that will encourage other people to be open also.
You can value the difference in other people. When someone disagrees with you, you can say,
"Good! You see it differently." You don't have to agree with them; you can simply affirm them. And
you can seek to understand.
When you see only two alternatives -- yours and the "wrong" one -- you can look for a synergistic
Third Alternative. There's almost always a Third Alternative, and if you work with a win-win
philosophy and really seek to understand, you usually can find a solution that will be better for
everyone concerned.

Application Suggestions

1. Think about a person who typically sees things differently than you do. Consider ways in
which those differences might be used as stepping-stones to Third Alternative solutions. Perhaps you
could seek out his or her views on a current project or problem, valuing the different views you are
likely to hear.
2. Make a list of people who irritate you. Do they represent different views that could lead to
synergy if you had greater intrinsic security and valued the differences.
3. Identify a situation in which you desire greater teamwork and synergy. What conditions
would need to exist to support synergy? What can you do to create those conditions.
4. The next time you have a disagreement or confrontation with someone, attempt to understand
the concerns underlying that person's position. Address those concerns in a creative and mutually
beneficial way.