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Quality literature, such as the Great Books, the Harvard Classics, autobiographies, National
Geographic and other publications that expand our cultural awareness, and current literature in various
fields can expand our paradigms and sharpen our mental saw, particularly if we practice Habit 5 as we
read and seek first to understand. If we use our own autobiography to make early judgments before
we really understand what an author has to say, we limit the benefits of the reading experience.
Writing is another powerful way to sharpen the mental saw. Keeping a journal of our thoughts,
experiences, insights, and learnings promotes mental clarity, exactness, and context. Writing good
letters -- communicating on the deeper level of thoughts, feelings, and ideas rather than on the shallow,
superficial level of events -- also affects our ability to think clearly, to reason accurately, and to be
understood effectively.
Organizing and planning represent other forms of mental renewal associated with Habits 2 and 3.
It's beginning with the end in mind and being able mentally to organize to accomplish that end. It's
exercising the visualizing, imagining power of your mind to see the end from the beginning and to see
the entire journey, at least in principles, if not in steps.
It is said that wars are won in the general's tent. Sharpening the saw in the first three dimensions --
the physical, the spiritual, and the mental -- is a practice I call the "Daily Private Victory." And I
commend to you the simple practice of spending one hour a day every day doing it -- one hour a day
for the rest of your life.
There's no other way you could spend an hour that would begin to compare with the Daily Private
Victory in terms of value and results. It will affect every decision, every relationship. It will greatly
improve the quality, the effectiveness, of every other hour of the day, including the depth and
restfulness of your sleep. It will build the long-term physical, spiritual, and mental strength to enable
you to handle difficult challenges in life.
In the words of Phillips Brooks:
Some day, in the years to come, you will be wrestling with the great temptation, or trembling under
the great sorrow of your life. But the real struggle is here, now. Now it is being decided whether, in
the day of your supreme sorrow or temptation, you shall miserably fail or gloriously conquer.
Character cannot be made except by a steady, long continued process.

The Social/Emotional Dimension

While the physical, spiritual, and mental dimensions are closely related to Habits 1, 2, and 3 --
centered on the principles of personal vision, leadership, and management -- the social/emotional
dimension focuses on Habits 4, 5, and 6 -- centered on the principles of interpersonal leadership,
empathic communication, and creative cooperation.
The social and the emotional dimensions of our lives are tied together because our emotional life is
primarily, but not exclusively, developed out of and manifested in our relationships with others.
Renewing our social/emotional dimension does not take time in the same sense that renewing the
other dimensions does. We can do it in our normal everyday interactions with other people. But it
definitely requires exercise. We may have to push ourselves because many of us have not achieved the
level of Private Victory and the skills of Public Victory necessary for Habits 4, 5, and 6 to come naturally
to us in all our interactions.
Suppose that you are a key person in my life. You might be my boss, my subordinate, my
co-worker, my friend, my neighbor, my spouse, my child, a member of my extended family -- anyone
with whom I want or need to interact. Suppose we need to communicate together, to work together,
to discuss a jugular issue, to accomplish a purpose or solve a problem. But we see things differently;
we're looking through different glasses. You see the young lady, and I see the old woman.