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CHURCH: "My" church, a status symbol. Source of unfair criticism or good things in life.
SELF: Defined by the things I own. Defined by social status, recognition.
PRINCIPLES: concepts which enable you to acquire and enhance possessions.
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If your center is Pleasure...
PLEASURE: Supreme end in life.
FRIENDS: Companions in fun.
ENEMIES: Take life too seriously. Guilt trippers, destroyers.
CHURCH: Inconvenient, obstacle to recreation. Guilt trip.
SELF: Instrument for pleasure.
PRINCIPLES: Natural drives and instincts which need to be satisfied.
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If your center is Friends...
PLEASURE: Enjoyed always with friends. Primarily social events.
FRIENDS: Critical to personal happiness. Belonging, acceptance, popularily is crucial.
ENEMIES: Outside the social circle. Common enemies provide unity or definition for friendship.
CHURCH: Place for social gathering.
SELF: Socially defined. Afraid of embarrassment or rejection.
PRINCIPLES: Basic laws which enable you to get along with others.
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This is the way you may tend to perceive other areas of your life.
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If your center is Enemies...
FRIEND OR PLEASURE: Rest and relaxation time before the next battle.
ENEMY OR FRIENDS: Emotional supporters and sympathizers. Possibly defined by common
enemy.
ENEMIES: Objects of hate. Source of personal problems. Stimuli to self-protection and
self-justification.
CHURCH: Source of self-justification.
SELF: Victimized. Immobilized by enemy.
PRINCIPLES: Justification for labeling enemies. Source of your enemy's wrongness.
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If your center is Church...
FRIEND OR PLEASURE: "Innocent" pleasures as an opportunity to gather with other church
members. Others as sinful or time wasters, to be self-righteously denied.
ENEMY OR FRIENDS: Other members of the church.
ENEMIES: Nonbelievers; those who disagree with church teachings or whose lives are in blatant
opposition to them.
CHURCH: Highest priority. Source of guidance.
SELF: Self-worth is determined by activity in the church, contributions to the church, or performance
of deeds that reflect the church ethic.
PRINCIPLES: Doctrines taught by the church. Subordinate to the church.
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If your center is Self...
FRIEND OR PLEASURE: Deserved sensate satisfactions. "My rights." "My needs.
ENEMY OR FRIENDS: Supporter, provider for "me".
ENEMIES: Source of self-definition, self-justification.
CHURCH: Vehicle to serve self-interests.