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USE YOUR MEMORY
repetition of any item you wish to learn greatly increases the
probability of your remembering it.
5 Verify the pronunciation. Once you have been given the name,
immediately confirm, by asking the person to whom the name
belongs, if you have the correct pronunciation. This confirms your
interest and once again repeats the name, increasing the probabi-
lity of your remembering it.
6 Request the spelling. If there is any doubt about the spelling of
the name, politely or playfully ask for the spelling, again confirm-
ing your interest and allowing another natural repetition of the
name.
7 Your new hobby - derivations. With a natural enthusiasm,
explain that one of your new hobbies is the background and
derivation of names, and politely ask the person to whom you have
been introduced if he or she knows anything about the history of
his or her own family name. (Be sure you know the history of your
own surname!) It may surprise you to know that on average 50 per
cent of people not only know at least some part of the background
of their families' nomenclature but most of them are enthusiastic
about discussing it. Once again you will have confirmed your
interest in the individual, as well as having laid the ground for
more repetition.
8 Exchange cards. The Japanese have developed card-exchange
as a major social function, realising how useful it is for memory. If
you are really interested in remembering people's names, make
sure you have a very presentable card to give them, and in most
cases they will give you their own or write the details down for you.
9 Repetition in conversation. Carrying the principles of interest,
politeness and repetition further, make sure that during conversa-
tions with people newly met you repeat their names wherever
possible. This repetition helps to implant the name more firmly in
your memory, and it is also socially more rewarding, for it involves
the other person more intimately in the conversation. It is far more
satisfying for them to hear you say, 'Yes, as Mary has just said .. .'
.
than to hear you say, 'Yes, as she [as you point] has just said ..'
10 Repeat internally. During any little pause in the conversation,
look analytically and with interest at the various people who are
speaking and about whom others are speaking, repeating intern-
ally to yourself the names that by now will be becoming second
nature to you.
11 Check during longer breaks. If you have gone to get a drink for
someone or for yourself, or for any other reason are momentarily
alone in a crowd, spend that time scanning everyone you have met,