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happening at the airport? Over a dozen people jump with joy

because they have an extra day to spend in this beautiful

country. Some people are completely neutral—for them,

nothing bad happened, but on the other hand, they are not sure

what to do and how their families will react. Another group of

people is desperate; they have important business meetings in
the USA a few hours later. Some other people will be

infuriated, because for them it will be their second canceled

flight in two weeks. Exactly the same event—different people,

different maps, different reactions.

Maps in Practice

I think that you can already see what this is about. Here

comes the question: how exactly can you use this?

First of all, you should come to the realization that the way

you live and whether you think your life is good or not
depends only on the kind of maps of reality you have. You see,

most “happy people” are not happy just because only good

things happen to them all the time. Just like some other people

are frustrated all the time and not just because they constantly

stumble over sad and painful things. It happens because these
happy people, as well as those frustrated ones, filter their

reality in a particular way. If you have a belief that the world is

a bad and sad place, that is how you will feel all the time. You

will limit your perception of reality only to the bad aspects of

your life and you won’t be able to really notice all the good
things that happen to you, simply because you can’t focus on

everything at once. You will filter the good emotions out at

your own demand.