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Think about how much energy you lost in your life for such

pointless arguments. Now, when you know that everyone has

their own map of the world and sees reality differently,

through individual prisms, it should be much easier to

understand that very rarely is there such a thing as objective

truth and being one hundred percent right about something.
Everyone is right in their own model of reality and if you want

to improve your communication skills, you have to really

think about it. After all, you can say, “OK, on my map the

harbor is in the west and on yours it’s in the north. It doesn’t

matter as we have different maps. Let’s find the right map
together so we can finally find the damn harbor!”

Remember, there are as many maps of reality as people in

the world. Make your map the most beneficial for yourself and

respect other people’s maps, without forcing them to use
yours. This is one of the most important concepts in family

therapy, psychology of communication, Neuro-Linguistic

Programming and many other different schools of psychology,

sociology and social dynamics. I will tell you more about this

particular concept and how to make practical use of it later in

this book, in chapters called “Rapport, the Art of Excellent
Communication,” “Metaprograms” and “Meta Model.”

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