Page 40 - Effective Communication Skills Mastery Bible 4 Books in 1 Boxset by Tuhovsky, Ian

That’s why the biblical story of Jesus Christ, no matter what

your religion is or isn’t, is so powerful to so many people. As

the Bible says, Jesus was whipped, humiliated, spat on,

kicked, made to carry his heavy cross and then crucified, but

he never reacted as if that was happening to him—he acted

according to whom he believed he was—God’s son. It doesn’t
matter if you’re a religious person or an atheist, you ought to

see the everlasting wisdom beneath these stories and apply

them into your daily life.

This change of beliefs or way of seeing your experiences
will allow you to filter reality completely differently. The

assumption that a map is not actual terrain is extremely helpful

in social interactions and building relationships with people.

Now, before you judge someone’s behavior, you will

remember that it comes from a different map of the reality that
person has. If you want to create a strong relationship with

another person, first get to know their map and then try to

empathize with it. You will be able to understand their

emotions, needs, behaviors and experiences at a much deeper

level.

This concept also shows you that proving you are right
doesn’t usually make any sense. Occasionally in the past, I felt

the need to argue with other people about who was right. I

always tried to show them rational arguments and concrete

proof and I could not stop wondering how someone could be

so wrong about something. In reality, it was just like I had a
map of New York and they had a map of Los Angeles and we

would argue for hours whether the harbor was in the west or in

the south of the map.