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Yes No

2. I insert my voice and am heard when I have
something to say.

3. I consider what I want the result to be of my
important communications/conversations and
frame my message accordingly.

Asking for What You Want

Knowing and asking for what we want is something we are entitled
to and others expect us to do. We sometimes think that others can
read our minds and respond to what we want. Or we are sometimes
fearful of being turned down or being seen as too pushy and not
appreciative of what we have already.
And, we may ask for help, but we ask in a way that people don’t
know how to respond. We are not thinking through what it is that
we want that person to do, so we really need to look at how we are
framing the request for help.
It’s planning ahead and determining who the right people are to
ask for this particular help. Who has the right information or con-
nections or expertise . . . and who can I trust?
It’s also following up to let someone know the value of the help
they gave you. It’s thanking them.
Finally, it’s important to recognize that when you do ask people
for help, they have the right to say no, so you don’t fall into the realm
of manipulation.

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1. I begin with the assumption that others will
be open and responsive to my requests.