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THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE Brought to you by FlyHeart

In the last analysis, as Marilyn Ferguson observed, "No one can persuade another to change. Each
of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of
another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.
If you decide to open your "gate of change" to really understand and live the principles embodied in
the Seven Habits, I feel comfortable in assuring you several positive things will happen.
First, your growth with be evolutionary, but the net effect will be revolutionary. Would you not
agree that the P/PC Balance principle alone, if fully lived, would transform most individuals and
organizations?
The net effect of opening the "gate of change" to the first three habits -- the habits of Private Victory
-- will be significantly increased self-confidence. You will come to know yourself in a deeper, more
meaningful way -- your nature, your deepest values and your unique contribution capacity. As you
live your values, your sense of identity, integrity, control, and inner-directedness will infuse you with
both exhilaration and peace. You will define yourself from within, rather than by people's opinions or
by comparisons to others. "Wrong" and "right" will have little to do with being found out.
Ironically, you'll find that as you care less about what others think of you; you will care more about
what others think of themselves and their worlds, including their relationship with you. You'll no
longer build your emotional life on other people's weaknesses. In addition, you'll find it easier and
more desirable to change because there is something -- some core deep within -- that is essentially
changeless.
As you open yourself to the next three habits -- the habits of Public Victory -- you will discover and
unleash both the desire and the resources to heal and rebuild important relationships that have
deteriorated, or even broken. Good relationships will improve -- become deeper, more solid, more
creative, and more adventuresome.
The seventh habit, if deeply internalized, will renew the first six and will make you truly
independent and capable of effective interdependence. Through it, you can charge your own batteries.
Whatever your present situation, I assure you that you are not your habits. You can replace old
patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of effectiveness, happiness, and
trust-based relationships.
With genuine caring, I encourage you to open the gate of change and growth as you study these
habits. Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it's holy ground. There's no greater
investment.
It's obviously not a quick fix. But I assure you, you will feel benefits and see immediate payoffs
that will be encouraging. In the words of Thomas Paine, "That which we obtain too easily, we esteem
too lightly. It is dearness only which gives everything its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper
price on its goods."