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"This is so simple. Why can't you understand?"
These visions are disjointed and out of proportion. They are often more projections than reflections,
projecting the concerns and character weaknesses of people giving the input rather than accurately
reflecting what we are.
The reflection of the current social paradigm tells us we are largely determined by conditioning and
conditions. While we have acknowledged the tremendous power of conditioning in our lives, to say
that we are determined by it, that we have no control over that influence, creates quite a different map.
There are actually three social maps -- three theories of determinism widely accepted, independently
or in combination, to explain the nature of man. Genetic determinism basically says your
grandparents did it to you. That's why you have such a temper. Your grandparents had short
tempers and it's in your DNA. It just goes through the generations and you inherited it. In addition,
you're Irish, and that's the nature of Irish people.
Psychic determinism basically says your parents did it to you. Your upbringing, your childhood
experience essentially laid out your personal tendencies and your character structure. That's why
you're afraid to be in front of a group. It's the way your parents brought you up. You feel terribly
guilty if you make a mistake because you "remember" deep inside the emotional scripting when you
were very vulnerable and tender and dependent. You "remember" the emotional punishment, the
rejection, the comparison with somebody else when you didn't perform as well as expected.
Environmental determinism basically says your boss is doing to you -- or your spouse, or that bratty
teenager, or your economic situation, or national policies. Someone or something in your environment
is responsible for your situation.
Each of these maps is based on the stimulus/response theory we most often think of in connection
with Pavlov's experiments with dogs. The basic idea is that we are conditioned to respond in a
particular way to a particular stimulus.
How accurately and functionally do these deterministic maps describe the territory? How clearly do
these mirrors reflect the true nature of man? Do they become self-fulfilling prophecies? Are they based
on principles we can validate within ourselves?

Between Stimulus and Response

In answer to those questions, let me share with you the catalytic story of Viktor Frankl.
Frankl was a determinist raised in the tradition of Freudian psychology, which postulates that
whatever happens to you as a child shapes your character and personality and basically governs your
whole life. The limits and parameters of your life are set, and, basically, you can't do much about it.
Frankl was also a psychiatrist and a Jew. He was imprisoned in the death camps of Nazi Germany,
where he experienced things that were so repugnant to our sense of decency that we shudder to even
repeat them.
His parents, his brother, and his wife died in the camps or were sent to the gas ovens. Except for
his sister, his entire family perished. Frankl himself suffered torture and innumerable indignities,
never knowing from one moment to the next if his path would lead to the ovens or if he would be
among the "saved" who would remove the bodies or shovel out the ashes of those so fated.
One day, naked and alone in a small room, he began to become aware of what he later called "the
last of the human freedoms" -- the freedom his Nazi captors could not take away. They could control
his entire environment, they could do what they wanted to his body, but Viktor Frankl himself was a
self-aware being who could look as an observer at his very involvement. His basic identity was intact.
He could decide within himself how all of this was going to affect him. Between what happened to
him, or the stimulus, and his response to it, was his freedom or power to choose that response.
In the midst of his experiences, Frankl would project himself into different circumstances, such as