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STEP 2: IDENTIFY YOUR PERSONAL REQUIREMENTS 67

3. Your needs will diminish and your confidence will increase.
Now that you have written down your top ten boundaries and have
started informing those around you, you will find that you won’t
need as much. It is often our inadequate boundaries that create
need in the first place. For example, if you have the need to be
respected, and your friends and colleagues constantly show up late
when meeting you or interrupt you when you are speaking, you
may feel that they disrespect you. Once you have the boundaries
in place, people will naturally treat you better. The better we are
treated by others, the better we feel about ourselves and the more
self-assured and confident we become. This process is normal,
natural, and completely effortless. All it takes is a concerted effort
up front to retrain and educate those around you on how you
wish to be treated from now on. Once you do this, you’ll learn that
it then is easier to ask people to do specific things to fulfill your
personal requirements. For more information on exactly how to
do this, read The Secret Laws of Attraction, where I have covered
the topic extensively and outlined in detail what you can ask your
friends and family to do to fulfill your personal needs.