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What does such a view of the world give you? Firstly, you

need to know that you can solve your problems by changing

your own filters. You can change your beliefs, values and the

way you see the world. It will make you change at a deep

level. Secondly, getting to know a map of the world of another

human being is the key to understanding them. When you truly
realize and understand that everyone can see certain things

totally differently than you do, it will be much easier for you

to create healthy relationships. You will read more about maps

and filters later in this book.

2. There Are Positive Intentions Behind Every Human

Behavior

According to that concept, our every behavior is the result

of good intentions. Even when we do something we are not

proud of, we probably made that choice because it was the

best choice for us at the given moment. It is extremely
important to understand this concept if you want to change

yourself and adapt new important behaviors. Remember that

your old, unwanted behaviors were caused by the fact that

your brain saw a positive intention in them for you. We are

simply doing the best we can with the skillset we currently
have. If anyone who has ever treated you poorly (your friend,

co-worker, stranger, family member) could instead have

treated you with respect and love, while receiving the same

from you and having their needs met, they would do that. We

all would, as that’s how we are programmed—to give and
receive love, fulfilling our needs at the same time. When

someone is not doing that and behaving in a way we don’t

like, it’s not natural. They’re probably suffering and that’s

what makes them hurt other people. The reason for that is they