Page 23 - Effective Communication Skills Mastery Bible 4 Books in 1 Boxset by Tuhovsky, Ian

C ommunication does not only consist of techniques.

Above all else, it is the way of thinking about and

seeing the world around you. A change in attitude

towards everything that surrounds us, rather than solely using

certain techniques, is the source of the biggest changes in our
life.

Acceptance of this new attitude and seeing the world

through entirely different filters can significantly change your

behavior in many situations. Instead of reacting impulsively

and emotionally, you will act more effectively and more
constructively, always looking for solutions and mutual

agreement. Get to know these assumptions thoroughly and

think how they apply to your life. It is important to consider

how your behavior will change after you accept a particular

way of seeing the world.

1. Everybody Has a Different Map of the World

It does not matter what this world actually is. We each get to

know it by our senses: eyes, ears, taste, touch, smell. Due to

the constraints of our brain, we can process only a small part

of all impulses our environment constantly sends us. Each bit
of information is processed by different filters: culture,

language, beliefs, values, experiences. Every human being

has their own filters, which differ from person to person.

That is the reason why every person sees reality

individually. Everyone perceives the same situation
differently and can interpret the same words divergently. We

all live in our own, unique realities made by sensory

impressions and individual experiences.