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Get to Know Your Obstacles!

I f you want to improve your communication skills, you

need to first recognize your limits, then really think

about all the things holding you back while interacting

with other people.

A good idea is to ask the people you see most about what

you should improve in yourself (or even change totally) when

it comes to your way of communicating. It might appear as a

strange idea at first, but believe me, it’s one of the most
effective ways of inner transformation. Your friends, family or

coworkers (interlocutors in general) may often see some

aspects of your communication (sometimes as subtle as tone of

voice, facial expression, etc.) that you are completely unaware

of. Now, let me tell you about the most common obstacles on
your way to becoming an effective communicator. Take a

moment to reflect at each of these points very deeply and

honestly. No need to deceive yourself. Answer yourself: are

you doing these things often?

Playing a Judge

Do you often tell others how you think they are or how they

should be? Perhaps you are certain that your way of perceiving

the world is the only correct way? If you tend to show judging

behaviors, you may have a tendency to interpret your

interlocutor’s messages through mental filters of stereotypes or
your own beliefs and experiences. Feeling like you are the

only one with the right to be right will turn out to be wrong

and unfair.

Feeling the Need to Finish Sentences for Others