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Often, while talking with others, you interrupt and

practically finish the whole sentence instead of letting your

interlocutor do it. It is very frustrating for people around you

and can make them unwilling to continue the conversation,

even if you are not told directly. In some instances, if it

happens constantly, it can even contribute to the ending of
your relationships because a listener does not try to analyze

what a sender is trying to say. If you are a frequent interrupter,

do everything you can to stop this tendency. You could, for

example, imagine yourself as a journalist conducting an

interview with a VIP, in serious need to gain as much
information as possible about the other person.

Uncle Good Advice

When you share your observations and give others advice,

you almost always feel like you can surely help them or

contribute to solving their problems. Step back and take a
moment to think about how you feel when other people are

constantly giving you their advice (especially unwanted

advice). How does it make you feel? Instead of playing a good

uncle and giving your “helpful tips” to everyone (“If I were

you, I would…”), try putting yourself in your interlocutor’s
place or situation and reflecting on how you would feel when

something like that happened to you. Eventually, you can give

advice if that’s your field of expertise or you’re asked for it.

Only just enough advice and not too much, only an honest

attempt to understand your interlocutor deeply and nothing
more. As often as possible, avoid playing a role of a wise sage

or oracle and try to lead the conversation in a way to enable

your interlocutors to solve the problem by themselves.

Moralizer