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rehearsing his annoying monologue for the fiftieth time before

a big play. This was my big obstacle and the reason I was able

to date many nice girls back in my high school days, but

without a chance for a second or third meeting. I simply talked

way too much and rarely listened to them and it took me many

wrecked first impressions and sleepless nights to figure that
out. They probably felt like they were having dinner or a walk

with a TV screen. Many men have problems with that. Even

today I can talk A LOT and once I start firing words, I often

have to force myself to stop, thinking, “Easy, you will have

time to say all these things, but not yet. You are not here
alone! Chill out, dude.”

People Who Don’t Let You Speak

Opposite to above, you may have a tendency for submission

in relationships with others. Do you have the impression that

others are not interested in your opinion? Do you often find
yourself in situations where your interlocutor takes advantage

of your attention and does not let you speak? Think about the

reason beneath such situations.

Maybe you have a bad opinion about yourself (“I have
nothing interesting to say”). Maybe you are afraid of other

people’s reactions when you want to interrupt a conversation

or simply add to it. Do not let that happen. You have the same

right to speak as others have. If you feel badly during a

conversation (someone is overwhelming you by their talking),
just stop them, politely tell them about it or try to change the

subject. Don’t waste your time and energy.

The key phrase is, “So, you’re telling me…” It’s a great

navigational tool to use in conversations with people who tend