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often show your impatience non-verbally. If that’s the case,

you should dedicate a good bit of time to improving your

focus.

By mastering the ability of concentration on what other

people say to you, you get more valuable information. This
enables you to focus on the real benefits of connecting with

others and also allows you to be there, in the moment, which

not only makes you much more likeable, but also more

effective as a communicator. Thanks to this, you also make an

impression of a trustworthy and understanding person and
thereby, you build deeper relationships with others.

Let’s now quickly recap what you just learned about basic

communication obstacles. To communicate effectively and

avoid distraction tendencies mentioned above, you have to

remember some basic rules:

1. Do not judge others; try to separate your own

interpretations from what your interlocutor really

said.

2. Listen patiently to the entire conversation and

paraphrase often—the latter makes you rehearse

what you have just been told and keeps your mind

from wandering away. Not only that, but it also

creates a very good impression of a genuine listener.

3. Instead of handing out advice all the time, pay

attention and show readiness to find something

interesting in your conversation.

4. Give people you talk to a chance to show their

beliefs, even if they are quite different to yours. Do