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Chapter 7:

Five Most Basic and Crucial

Conversational Fixes

L et me now expand a little bit on what we learned in

the previous chapter and tell you about the five most

conversational
powerful
and
easy-to-apply
improvements you need to start using.

Stop for a Moment

One of the most basic and crucial things to do, which most
people aren’t doing in conversations, is to PAUSE before

replying. A short pause (2-5 seconds) after a person stops

talking is a very smart and savvy thing to do. When you pause,

you accomplish three goals at the same time.

First of all, you avoid the risk of interrupting if the person is
just taking a breath before continuing. The second benefit is

that you show the other person that you’re taking careful

consideration by not jumping in with your own comments at

the earliest opportunity. The last benefit is that you actually

hear the other person better. The words will soak into a deeper

level of your mind and you will understand what they are
really saying with greater clarity. By pausing, you mark

yourself as a great person to talk to.

Ask for Clarification

Another tactic you can utilize in order to greatly improve

your communication skills is to ask for clarification. Never