Page 84 - Getting to the Heart of High Performance

While your thinking brain has the final say in how you

handle yourself, other people have the privilege of
labeling your behavior as positive, negative, or neutral.
Let’s go over that again. Whoever is on the receiving

end gets to classify your behavior. If you say you’re smil-
ing, and the other person in the cycle perceives it to be
a sarcastic smirk, that person's opinion prevails. He or
she can legitimately say you’re being negative. Is this
fair? Well, it holds you accountable for how you’re com-

ing across to others. And look at it this way: you will
insist on the right to label the attitudes and behavior
that other people aim in your direction.

THE TWO GROUND RULES FOR DEVELOPING
DEEP STRENGTHS

Your two simple decisions will immediately slot you into one
of six behavior categories. These are the only alternatives
available to you and the other person:

68 DEEP STRENGTHS