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2. Take the conversation deeper.

Think about the people in your life that you are most willing to open yourself
up to and share things with them. What about them makes you comfortable
disclosing personal things that you wouldn’t typically tell others?

More than likely, they always make eye contact and they make you feel as if
you are getting their full attention. Pay attention to expressions that they
make. Notice how they are completely with you not only what they say but in
their facial expressions. They look happy when you share something that you

are excited or happy about. They will look solemn when you share something
that is sad. You are able to feel that they are completely into everything you
are saying.

If trying to emulate what they do seems unnatural, continue to practice this
and push yourself until you have learned how to. You will start to notice that
other people will react differently when talking with you.

3. Ask them good questions.

You can get other people to share more by showing them that you are
interested by asking them questions. This will help the conversation to move
deeper. Some good questions are asking them how they feel or think about
something that they have been talking about. If you have had a conversation
with this person previously, bring up something from the last conversation.
More than likely, if they bring up something, it is an interest and importance.

Take a moment to think about other areas that are connected to the interests
you know they have and what they might like to talk about.

4. Take into consideration the time and space.

Don’t bring a conversation beyond pleasantries unless you know that you
have time to listen to the person. Places that are loud with a lot of other
people aren’t the best to get into a good conversation. To have a good

conversation, you need a slow and relaxed environment without a bunch of
pressure and distractions. Coffee shops are good for conversations. Sports
bars aren’t.

Show Curiosity

Having a real conversation means that you have created a space for