Page 25 - Effective communication Skills by Dale King

Now, if you are a man and you already know the man really well, then you

can skip the email and talk to them in person. The closer your relationship is
with them, the more effective an in-person conversation will be.

9. Above everything else, make sure that you are correct.

A persuasive person understands the best way to frame and deliver their
argument, but the most important thing is that they know their message is
what is most important. So, make sure that you are clear, concise, and get to

the point. You will win the day because your information will be correct.

Patience

Being persuasive is typically going to require some patience on your part. In
order to change a person’s mind, it is going to take some time to create your

argument and to explain it rationally, consistently, and subtly. If your
message is simple, it might not take you that long to share it. But if it is
something more complex, you are going to have to be patient with them and
make sure they stick with you throughout the conversation.

When you start to bring your argument to a close, you could present the
conclusion as the most obvious one. However, people tend to be more easily
persuaded if they think that they are coming to their own conclusion. Their

hope is that it is their idea to change their viewpoint, action, or belief. The
great thing is, if you have made sure to present your argument in such a way
that it makes sense to them, they are going to believe that it was their idea.
This means that they will be more likely to continue to act upon that opinion.

Ethical Persuasion

There are some ethical dilemmas that you need to think about if you plan on
using persuasion. There are quite a few people out there who use persuasion
maliciously to take advantage of or harm other people. Before you start your
persuasion, think about how it is going to impact them if you are successful.

In the legal world, they have the term, undue influence. This means that you

are persuading a person to act again their own free will. This tends to be an
issue when a person is incapacitated in one way or another and can’t make
their own decisions.

This can happen when a caregiver is trying to convince an older adult to