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People can’t snap at me.
People can’t say things to me that make me feel stupid.
People can’t take out on me feelings or issues that they have
concerning other people.
People cannot treat me inequitably.
You can choose any boundaries you like from the preceding list
and then add your own. Take a moment now to write down the
ten principal boundaries you want in your life:
MY TOP TEN BOUNDARIES
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At this juncture, you are probably thinking, “Terrific! So, I’ve
got this new boundary: ‘No one may raise his or her voice to me.’
Now what do I do about it?”
I have taught thousands of people an extremely effective four-
step communication model for establishing personal boundaries.
Before you begin, it helps if you understand that whenever some-
one crosses one of your boundaries, you’ve allowed the person
to do so. If you want the behavior to change, you need to let the
