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all involved. You can use the following guidelines to open up communication

with each other. If you are in an abusive or unhealthy relationship, use these
tips with caution. Only you know your relationship. If any of these tips might
place you in danger, don’t ever try them.

To have healthy communication:

Pick a Good Time: If you have something that is bothering you
and you want to talk about it, it is helpful to pick a time that is
good for both of you. Find time when you both are calm and there

won’t be any distractions. Make sure you pick a time where you
won’t feel rushed or stressed. You could even schedule a time to
talk if both lead busy lives.

48 Hour Rule: If your significant other does something that makes
you mad, you should tell them about it. You don’t have to do it
immediately, if you are still hurting after 48 hours, tell them about
it otherwise forget it. You have to remember that your significant

other can’t read your mind. If you don’t let them know when you
are upset, there isn’t any way for them to change or apologize.
When you do bring up your hurt feelings and they apologize and
mean it, leave it alone. Don’t bring up problems later on if they
aren’t relevant.

Watch Your Body Language: Show your significant other that you
are listening by giving them your undivided attention. Sit up while

facing them and always make eye contact while they are talking.
Don’t answer the phone, play a game, or answer a text while
you’re talking. Give them the respect they deserve by listening
and responding.

Honesty: You and your partner have to both agree to be honest.
There will be a time when the truth hurts, but it is the main key to
have a healthy relationship. Admitting that you aren’t perfect and

then apologize if you make mistakes rather than coming up with
an excuse. You are going to feel better, plus it will help strengthen
the relationship.

Never Attack: Even if you mean well, you might come across as
being too harsh due to our word choice. When you use the word