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“you,” it might sound as if you are attacking. This only makes

your significant other less receptive and defensive to what you are
trying to say. Try to use “I” or “we” when talking. You could say
something like: “I feel like we haven’t been as close lately.” Don’t
say: “You have been very distant with me.”

Be Face to Face: don’t talk about matters or problems that are
serious in writing. Emails, letters, or text messages could be
misinterpreted. Speak with them face to face, so there aren’t any

miscommunications. If you have problems collecting your
thoughts, write them down beforehand and read them aloud to
your significant other.

Ways to Communicate When Angry

It is perfectly fine to get angry when you are in a relationship. Everybody

gets angry at some point. The important thing is you resolve these conflicts in
healthy ways. If your partner makes you angry, here are some steps you can
take:

Stop: When you are extremely angry, stop and take some time to
breathe. Tell your significant other that you need to take some
time before continuing with the conversation. Take enough time to
calm down by listening to music, taking a walk, playing a game,
talking with a friend, watching television, or whatever will help

you to relax. Taking some time off can keep the situation from
becoming volatile.

Think: Once you aren’t upset any longer, think about what makes
you angry. Was it the way they spoke and what they did? Find out
the main problem and then figure out how to explain the way you
are feeling.

Talk: After you’ve done all the above, talk with your partner and

remember to use the above tips.

Listen: Once you have told your partner the way you feel, don’t
forget to stop talking and listen to them. Both of you deserve an
opportunity to express your feelings in a healthy and safe
environment.