Page 68 - Effective communication Skills by Dale King

Her approach created the correct perception for her students and herself. She

treated her students just like they were Harvard graduates if they didn’t prove
otherwise. Students started the year with her complete appreciation,
encouragement, and trust.

This can be applied to romantic relationships to improve communication. Try
this experiment and see what happens.

Want the best for your partner. Place them on a pedestal for being wonderful
and talk to them appropriately. You like being talked to like you were loved,
respected, appreciated, and valued in every way. How would you respond to

somebody who thought very highly of you? You might just see your
communication drastically improve.

Long Distance Relationships

Communicating with others is hard when you are beside one another. If you
are in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t live near you, it can be a lot
harder. Using effective maintenance strategies are essential with long
distance relationships. Being optimistic helps, too.

Talking openly about the relationship and assuring each other you are
committed are great strategies. Technology has made communicating

cheaper, faster, and easier in relationships today. Technology can also leave
room for miscommunications.

If your partner doesn’t respond to a message as quickly as you think they
should, you may be jumping to conclusions. Having distance between the two
of you can exacerbate feelings because you can speak with them in person.
Does this sound familiar?

If you realize you are thinking about what they might be up to, learning more
about thought distortions might be a good remedy. Negative thoughts only
lead to unhealthy communication. Thought distortions are an automatic way

you respond or think to an event that might cause distress. It happens when
an emotional response doesn’t match the situation.

If you get caught up in a spiral, you might get stuck in one of these thought
distortions:

1. Catastrophizing