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say: “I would like to be treated with consideration and I would like to feel

important to you.”

4. Demand and Request

With this step, you have to make clear requests. What will your date need to
do in order for your needs to be met? You might say: “That is why I ask you
to arrive at a specific time.”

This process is simple, but by no means easy. It is going to take time to wrap
your head around it. It might feel clumsy at first, but with some practice,

communication will get easier and become clearer. You will be accepting
your partner with their flaws and asking them without becoming violent for
things you need so you can be happy.

Responding Actively and Constructively

Even though nonviolent communication can improve personal
communication, there are ways you can change how you respond. Positive
emotions can benefit a person’s well-being. Having conversations gives you

opportunities to increase your positive emotions.

Feedback that is appreciated has to be inspiring, supportive, and focused on
the situation’s strengths. The most common model that is used is the Active
Constructive Responding Model.

This model states that messages could be passive or active and destructive or
constructive. If your coworker tells you the presentation they gave went well,

there are various ways you could respond.

How you react could fall into one of these responses:

1. Hurtful or active destructive: “That is surprising, you are normally
bad at giving presentations.

2. Ignorant or passive destructive: “Sorry, I don’t have time to listen
right now.”

3. Cold or passive constructive: “Oh, that’s good.”

4. Nurturing or active constructive: “That’s great! I’m really happy
for you! Tell me about it!”