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4. Often, when we want to give our message more

power, we use words like “really” or “very” as we

think they will underline and bold our message,

making it stronger or more influential. Very often it’s

the other way around—it’s the elimination of words

like “very” or “really” which makes our messages
stronger and more polished. It’s a very common

problem for a lot of women, as they tend to use these

words more often in their verbal messages. Men do

as well, just not as often. If you want to convey your

messages more professionally in the workplace or in
a business situation, stop using these words to

supercharge what you’re saying (they end up vague

or poor sounding instead) and compose simple

straightforward messages instead. What sounds more

serious: “It’s really dangerous!” or simply, “It’s
dangerous”?

5. “I can’t deal with…” Never let anybody hear you

saying that! It makes you appear as a helpless,

neurotic or maybe even toxic “victim type” of person
acting rather like a sulky teenager than an adult. It’s

ten times better to say instead, “I’m struggling

dealing with…” On the top of that, you should also

add a question for a contribution to this problem. For

instance, let’s say that you’re talking to your
manager about your annoying colleague and how

your team operates: “Listen, Bob, I’m really

struggling to deal with Mark’s frequent unpredictable

behaviors. Do you have some tips or advice for me

on what can I do?” Not only does it show that you