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normal, the other side of the coin is “not normal,”

which could be offensive to some people. Instead,

it’s much safer and smarter to say “average” or

“usual.” It’s almost impossible to receive it wrong

and misinterpret it and it’s much more specific,

defined, and easier to relate to.

8. Now, the last one, and a little talk about the right

attitude on top of that. In your utterances, you should

change “Because…” to “Because I…” Let’s say that

you lost your job and it’s hard to make a living now.
You could say, “Because my boss fired me, I lost my

job and now I am struggling to make a living and…”

or, “Because of the bad economy, I lost my job and

now I’m…” Instead, you should say, “Because I used

to spend too much and failed to save enough money
to make a living before I’m able to find a new job or

start a business…” or,

“Because I stopped developing myself and learning

new things, my boss was able to find people with

higher qualifications than mine who would work for
the same money…” Apart from the fact that you

might really hate your boss and your bad situation

might really also be caused by the bad economy,

doing so trains your brain not to shift responsibility

to other people and circumstances and makes you
learn from your own mistakes, shortcomings and

imperfections instead. Remember: changing your

verbal patterns also changes your mental patterns.

Next time, when someone asks you why you are late,

instead of shifting the responsibility and offering