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Chapter 10:
Verbal Dexterity
L anguage is a powerful instrument which gives us a
lot of amazing opportunities. When used properly, it
can lead your conversation wherever you want it to
be, leave a great impression or influence your interlocutors’
decisions.
In this chapter, you will learn about the patterns of linguistic
dexterity, thanks to which you can easily change the way of
thinking in most people. One of the most useful applications of
these patterns is the changing of people’s beliefs.
I want to tell you about so-called “sleight of mouth,” which
was created by Robert Diltsa. He decided to analyze Richard
Bandler’s (the creator of NLP – Neuro-Linguistic
Programming) most frequent patterns in his verbal
communication. He picked the ones he found the most
effective and modified them, creating his own system. Now
“The Sleight of Mouth” is used by therapists and coaches all
over the world, mainly as an effective instrument for changing
beliefs in a conversation.
Long story short, it’s a set of fourteen language patterns,
which you can use in practically every single conversation.
These patterns are independent from each other and it’s up to
you to decide which will fit most in a particular situation.
Each pattern, in its own way, helps to extend the perspective
and horizons of a person with whom you are talking and helps
