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saying—they will feel your involvement (even though you

will be silent) and will appreciate it. People love when

someone really listens to them and they love talking about

themselves!

7. Ask Unique Questions

Unique questions distinguish your conversation from the

grey crowd, stimulate your speaker’s imagination and make

you think. Some examples: “If you had a passive fixed income

of $40,000 provided every single month, what would you do

with your life? Which dreams would you fulfill?”, “What do
you want your life to look like three years from now?”, “What

was the best day of your life?”, “What makes you laugh the

most?”, “If there were no limits, what would you want to do in

five minutes?” and so on. There are infinite amounts of such

questions—it all comes down to your creativity. Sometimes a

single question like that can be enough to build an extremely
interesting conversation.

8. Induce Feelings

Tap into all kinds of emotions! Make sure that there is

laughter, joy, occasional tension and uncertainty and at other
times curiosity, mystery and fascination in your conversations.

You can also use the so-called “emotional rollercoaster”—tell

your interlocutors about something very cheerful, then about

something rather sad in order to break the emotional state (but

don’t overdo it, you don’t want your interlocutors depressed or

crying) and then again about something very uplifting,
relaxing and joyful. Strong emotions engage people in a

conversation and get both sides in the state of flow—instead

of thinking about what to say, you just speak. You do not