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simply talk to each other, but have a real conversation where

both sides are fully engaged and present in the moment. You

don’t want to overuse this technique and do it every single

time you talk to a person, but it is especially helpful at the

beginning, when you get to meet someone or want to be

remembered.

How do you induce emotions? The best idea is to feel them

yourself. If you want to make the other person feel curious,

first feel it yourself, then start telling them about something

with great curiosity. The so-called mirror neurons ensure that
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they will quickly start feeling very similar emotions to these

you are feeling at the moment .
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9. Lead Conversations

Are you bored with talking about the same thing for too

long? Do you have a much more interesting idea in your
mind? With a little bit of ingenuity, you can lead conversations

in the direction you want them to go. The only thing you

have to do is to “catch” particular parts of your

interlocutor’s speech and start a new thread on this

previous foundation. For example, when someone talks about
how last year they were in the hospital for two weeks and how

awful it was, you can interject with: “One month ago I was

also unlucky enough to visit the hospital for an extended

period of time. I spent almost all that time watching movies on

my laptop. Have you watched any interesting movies lately?”
When someone is complaining all the time about how bad the

situation in our country is and you don’t feel like listening to it

for fifth time in a row, you can say, “Well, you’re right, our

government could work more efficiently, but that doesn’t

change the fact that our country is extremely beautiful—I went