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78 What Type of Leader Are You?

ASK YOURSELF: WHAT DO I REALLY NEED? Becoming more aware of
your feelings can lead to greater clarity about your true needs.
Repeatedly ask yourself what you need until your answers become
deeper. Or, ask yourself the simple question What am I feeling
right now? and explore these feelings in depth. This question is
important because Twos tend to repress their feelings—that is,
when they have a feeling, they may either not acknowledge it or
underestimate its depth and intensity.

EXAMINE THE WAYS IN WHICH YOU GIVE IN ORDER TO GET SOMETHING
IN RETURN Make a list of everything you have done for other peo-
ple in the last week, whether it’s bringing someone home from the
hospital or listening longer than you may have desired. Next to each
item, write down what you wanted in return. Continue this list for
several weeks. You may find that your behavior changes simply as
a result of your becoming more aware of giving in order to get. If
not, then reflect on the price you pay for continuing this behavior.

Enneagram Style Threes

Threes organize their lives to achieve specific goals
and to appear successful in order to gain the
respect and admiration of others.

CHART 3.4 Threes: Levels of Self-Mastery

Descriptions
Extreme self-mastery The Believer
Core understanding: Everyone has intrinsic value, and there
is a natural flow and order to everything.
Threes with extreme self-mastery have looked inside
themselves to find out who they really are (apart from what
they accomplish) and what they truly feel (instead of masking
their emotions). Willing to admit that they don’t always feel
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