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80 What Type of Leader Are You?

CHART 3.4 (Continued) Threes: Levels of Self-Mastery

Descriptions
Example: In her fund-raising job for a nonprofit organization,
Heather constantly interrupted people or demanded attention
by using an extremely loud voice. When she did this while
trying to solicit funds, her attempts were unsuccessful. Most
people thought she was obnoxious, and others felt used by
her, perceiving her as being interested in interacting with
them only as a means of getting money and making herself
look good.

Development Stretches for Threes

TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF Make a commitment to
spend at least 30 minutes each day just being. This means not
working or engaging in any activities in which you focus on some-
thing external (such as watching a film or going shopping). If you
don’t quite understand the idea of “being,” ask three people who
are very different from you what this concept means to them, and
how they go about simply being. Experiment with some of the
ideas they suggest.

LEARN TO AVOID OVERIDENTIFYING WITH YOUR WORK Make a list
of answers to this question: Who am I? Now place a check mark
next to all the items that reflect roles you play, such as spouse,
worker, and family member. How many of the items on your list
are not roles? Now answer this question: If I am not the roles I
play, then who am I? Keep adding to this list on a daily basis, and
commit to appreciating that who you are is far more than just the
roles you play.

ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR WEAKNESSES When you are feeling con-
cerned, anxious, or sad, can you admit this to someone else? Can
you admit to and discuss your mistakes or failures? If your answer
is yes, then practice doing this even more. If your answer is no,
then seriously consider what it is within you that keeps you from
doing this. Imagine how you would feel if you could allow your-