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76 What Type of Leader Are You?

Whenever you have negative reactions, add an equal number of pos-
itive ones. If you try to erase or submerge your negative feelings or
thoughts, they are likely to become stronger or else go underground
temporarily, only to reappear more strongly at a later date. However,
if you add positive reactions to the mix, you will begin to neutralize
some of the negativity and build up your ability to see the positive.

Enneagram Style Twos

Twos want to be liked, try to meet the needs of oth-
ers, and attempt to orchestrate the people and
events in their lives.

CHART 3.3 Twos: Levels of Self-Mastery
Descriptions
Extreme self-mastery The Humble One
Core understanding: There is a profound purpose to
everything that occurs that is independent of one’s own
efforts.
Enneagram Twos with extreme self-mastery do not give to
get, and they do not feel a need to reinforce their self-worth
by getting others to like them and orchestrating other
people’s lives. Gentle, generous, humble, inclusive, and
deeply compassionate, they give simply to give and express
their own deeper needs directly. Their sense of well-being
and warmth draw others to them.
Example: Before the age of 35, Maurice would have avoided
or felt hostile toward people who criticized him or made
excessive demands on him. However, after doing a great deal
of self-development work, Maurice found that when these
situations occurred, he was able just to listen to the kernel of
wisdom in a criticism, say no nicely to demands that he could
not meet, and carry no lingering resentments when others
did not follow his advice.
Moderate self-mastery The Friend
Core concern: Feeling valuable, liked, needed, appreciated,
and worthy.
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