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CHART 3.2 (Continued) Ones: Levels of Self-Mastery

Descriptions
Low self-mastery The Judge
Core fear: Being bad or malevolent; having something
deeply, intrinsically wrong with them.
Ones with low self-mastery can be intolerant, tightly wound,
inflexible, volatile, unstable, and punishing. Judgmental and
unforgiving, they become prosecutor, judge, and jury, all
rolled into one. These reactions can be aimed either at others
or at themselves and can be provoked by even minor
perceived infractions.
Example: Janet was certain (but wrongly) that Ryan had
stolen her ideas, so when he came up for a promotion, she
nixed his candidacy. While doing this, Janet made up a
reason why Ryan was not fit for the position; behind the
scenes, however, she made it known that he was a person
who lacked moral integrity.

Development Stretches for Ones

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR PATTERNS OF RIGHT/WRONG THINKING
Without trying to change yourself, write down all the ways in which
you judge, evaluate, and critique events, objects, other people, and
yourself. Include your language patterns (your thoughts, words
you have written or spoken) and nonverbal behavior and identify
what triggers these responses in you. Paradoxically, the more you
become aware of this behavior without trying to change it, the
more you will gradually begin to shift your responses.

USE YOUR FEELINGS OF RESENTMENT AS A CLUE TO DISCERN DEEPER-
SEATED ANGER Whenever you feel irritation or resentment, ask
yourself these questions: Am I really angry about something else
that has little to do with this person or situation? Is there some
core value that I hold that I believe has been violated? Is there
something in how I see myself or how I want to see myself that
has been threatened?

LEARN TO APPRECIATE WHAT IS POSITIVE IN EVERYTHING—EVENTS,
INANIMATE OBJECTS, YOURSELF, AND THE BEHAVIOR OF OTHER PEOPLE