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b) According to many famous and successful people, NLP
is one of the best things that’s ever happened to them.

c) The fact that this is such a big challenge makes it even

more interesting and tempting.

14. Strategies of Reality

Make your interlocutor aware of the fact that a single belief

may mean many various things, depending on a point of view.

a) What exactly do you mean by “hard”?

b) What exactly did you want to tell me by saying that
“NLP is not appropriate”?

c) What does “hard” mean to you?

Now, when you are familiar with every pattern, you can start

using it every time you talk to someone. The most important

thing is to consciously pay attention to what the other person

says. Listen carefully to everything they have to tell you and

depending on a situation, use an appropriate language pattern.
Some of these patterns and examples might be too cocky in

some instances, whereas some of them might be too weak to

pierce through someone’s mind-shell. Sometimes you would

have to be rather subtle (e.g. when talking to your teacher or

professor), sometimes you would need to roll out the heaviest
artillery to change the way someone thinks (I sometimes had

to use several patterns to finally succeed in explaining

something to someone). Deciding which of these patterns you

should use is up to you, as every single case may be totally

different and you have to take different circumstances into

account.

You should especially pay attention to beliefs hidden in

verbal messages, which say that someone is not able to do